Why Marriage actually equals inequality in India..

As soon as a girl is born in India, her family prepares itself to give her the perfect send off after a few years. She is made to believe that she doesn't belong to this family forever, she was born to serve another family. A family that hasn't helped in her childhood or in her education. A family that didn't know she existed till a few months before the marriage. She believes that she has to give up that family which she has grown to love and cherish over the years, and selflessly divert all the love to another family one random day.

Why? Coz she married their male offspring.

If you ask a guy what his plans after graduation are, he would probably say further studies or a job, get well settled before you hear him utter the word marriage. And the society doesn't expect him to either. While a girl plans for further studies, the same society is looking for grooms for her.

If you ask a guy if he would sit at home after marriage or after a (mind you, even his) baby, he would laugh at you and say, why do you think I struggled all my life with numerous exams and degrees? And if a girl says she wants to work (or study for that matter) even after marriage or a baby , she is judged at every step of her career and life.

If you ask a guy if he would leave his family and stay with the girl's family or to where the girl works, he would say he loves his family way too much, owes them everything and can't leave them alone at such an age. But completely without any guilt expects a girl to do the same without the blink of an eye. And, how can her career be more important than his, though she worked as much as he did, if not more, to be at that position. He is not at blame, really, he was taught that by his forefathers. Also, the grim reality of it is that, a girl at the brink of marriageable age or married with her husband working somewhere else, is not preferred while being considered for a job, coz who knows she might just leave the job and go. Is that even fair?

If you ask a guy, if he would change his name that he loves so much, his gotra, his religion or his caste or anything that defines his identity to him, he would snort at you in derision. If the girl says she doesn't want to change any of the above to her husband's (if given a choice, that is) god help her, it'll be a tough life ahead for her.

Yes, I know a baby needs a mother when it is born, but I don't see anyone adding the mother's surname to the baby's name. Why should anyone, they already expect the girl to have changed her identity even before the baby is born.

And, who has to spend the whole of their life savings on one day? You guessed it right. The girl's family (no points for that).

Dowry. Period. (Need not say anything more, the word is self-explanatory)

And yet, every day people ask me why I don't want to get married.

Sincerely,

A girl who the world might call selfish.

P.S: To all those people who are going to argue that times have changed; yes, they might have changed when compared to what it was 100 years ago, but we all have a long way to go..! Start the change with you; be the change you want to see in this world, the Father of our nation said.. Don't follow the crowd, be a leader the crowd would be inclined to follow..